The other day i am having a conversation with my 4.9 y old daughter.. or rather she is giving me list of demands… then something interesting happened
I was attempting to read a book when she comes running in and …….
Daughter : I want another Frozen doll
Daughter: i want some chocolate
Daughter: i want to go outside
Me: a little later not right now
Daughter : i want to watch a movie
Daughter: I want to play with your phone
Daughter: I want…..
Me: NO !
Daughter: to drink some water ( she said finishing her sentence)
I paused, seeing if I could grant that request… she was small in height and couldn’t reach the shelf.. she needed my help
Then it hit me.
All too often we are quick to judge and fall out of the moment, as i did and keep replying automatically without thought, concern or presence
Presence…. that’s the key
We agree, or disagree to people’s requests without fully exploring all possibilities and bring present
It is only when we are poised from within and present that we are able to truly engage with some one at a conversational level.
It is when we are present within ourselves do we have the ability to exchange ideas
The rest of the time it is random egos attempting to respond or react instead of truly connect.
Had I been more present I would have been connected right from the first part of the conversation and realized that all she wanted was my attention to get some water, yet my falling out of the moment led me to simply just say NO to everything till I even skipped over the most important part…
A simple glass of water
LISTENING is a key part of being present
REPLYING back from a space of presence is the one of the most authentic experience we can have
LISTEN.. PAUSE…. REPLY…. CONNECT
Your powerful ally
I love you