The age old question when something does not go our way or is unexpected. Why me? Usually this is dependent on a bad experience as it enters any aspect of life, home, work, family or personal. “Why me? I never did anything to anyone”. Numerous examples of this occur on a regular basis. Some experiences more extreme than others, and hopefully infrequently occurring all at once. Yet always 100% never wanted.
Flat tire in a rain storm.
Parking ticket or worse yet car towed away when you left the car for not even a few minutes.
Failed an exam that you were prepared for.
Getting bad news about a loved one, or worse yet about yourself from the doctor.
Your boss dumps more work on you that has to be completed 5 minutes before you were to punch out and meet your family.
Air-conditioning unit breaks on the hottest day of summer.
Power loss and you lose all your unsaved computer work at 3 am.
Been there done that. And the list goes on and is uniquely selective in your life. You feel like stepping out of your world and looking up at the sky with arms reaching high up and yelling ” WHY ME?” Again been there done that.
This is not about the universe playing tit for tat with you or I. In fact it is not about me at all. It is about the opportunity to learn from the experience. What comes next after the initial jaw dropping flabbergasted look, is what matters, namely the reaction. Do you take it lying down with anger, feelings of hurt and despair or do I rise above it and choose to learn from the experience and rise through to the other side. You or I can treat anything as a disability be it mental, physical or emotional. Yet all that serves is to keep me in the smaller place that I am in while hiding in fear from a larger purpose that my Spirit awaits to embrace.
You can learn from blind person to see, or from a deaf person to hear, or from a mute individual to speak, or from your broken heart to learn to love in the face of adversity. Imagine the following individuals to name but a few who have traversed their “disability” and learned to embrace their greater purpose. Andrea Bocelli or Stevie Wonder, blind musicians who have given themselves to their gifts of music and song. IIike Wyludda from Germany, with a leg amputation who won the Paralympics, or Beethoven who was deaf yet wrote some of the greatest compositions ever. The list is endless of those people living or dead who have used their disabilities as a stepping stone towards greatness. It does not have to be just a mental, or physical illness that may hold us back. It can be the emotional state of gripping fear in depression, anxiety, or worry that keeps us from achieving the next level. Yet it can be done.
Once you shrug off this defeated, pitiful mentality of “why me?” that prevents you from the state of bliss, you are on your way. Whether it is an issue at home, with your finances, your job, your career, your family situation, your unwell child, it does not matter. It is easier said than done, yet I would argue that it is easier done than said as you realize the state you are in and CHOOSE to move ahead with changing the situation. The change may itself take time to manifest into a better outcome, but in the end it is coming out of that pitiful and anguish-full saga and realize the truth, you are greater than the adversity before you.
Why me? Why not? I can handle it.