Flowers bought in bunches, candy and chocolates fly off the grocery store shelves, elaborate cards saying three little words ” I love you” are ferociously signed, and tasteful dinners are planned. If we are lucky to have that special someone in our lives to share with our journey we offer them a token of our appreciation for their continued interest in our lives as if in some shameless hidden corner of our minds we say “Thank you for putting up with me.” Perhaps the feelings that one offers their significant other is actually genuine. Yet one can only feel genuine feelings when one is genuine within.
This is the nature of the discovery that we all seek. The search for the crucible of intimacy of our ‘ other’ that is in fact our Self. It is the kindling of this light that gives us the peace such that we may truly shout out ” I love only You, and I forsake all others.” Our other half that mirrors qualities of our outward physical partner is in fact the essence of ourselves that longs to acknowledge that level of intimacy with us. It is not just one special day that we celebrate this unveiling path yet more of a daily occurrence. Every night we dissolve our selves and our Self into the myriad of dreams and return as one spirit and each day as we awaken into our conscious selves the separation and fear begin anew with the hope of finding our Self again, yet we reach out each day for that physical conscious person instead to substitute the apparent loss of our Self.
The search for bliss and joy, happiness, resolution of all problems is part of the unending dance with ourselves through the forests of anxiety, anger, insecurity and frustrations. It is in this plethora of movements that we encounter an invitation of Love.
Love appears as scared, confused, and uncertain of itself at times.
Love is naive and non judgmental.
Love is curious and playful.
Love learns quickly and adapts.
Love grows stronger, resilient yet malleable.
Love is pure and remains just so in its steadfastness.
Love requires no expectations.
Remove the expectations you have of another and you remove the burden off yourself. The pressure to fulfill a role that is outward and not inward is always met with great distress. So on this commercially marked day of recognition of the Love for another, spend a few valuable moments with gratitude for the one partner that has not nor will not ever let you down, or expect anything from you in return. Celebrate the intimacy of You and yourself, complete as one.
Happy Valentine’s Day…… happy Day of You.
I Love You