Buddha once said ” Resentment is like drinking poison, and hoping the other person will die”
Think about this for longer than you can change your thoughts and you will realize that there is so much of depth to this seemingly innocent statement. As I see resentment it means a” lack of forgiveness”. This lack of forgiveness towards others can have terrible ripple effects manifesting as anger, hatred, bitterness, estrangement. When I am in a state of lack of forgiveness and I am resentful towards someone, I am holding out the idea that through my anger, hatred and bitterness I will somehow make THEM pay for how I feel. Yet never fully comprehending that it is these qualities that are the poison that i consume that does nothing to another, except harm me.
When I am in a state of resentment I hold onto the insecurities, the anxieties, the problems, the worries, the negativity, the heart breaks, the old wounds, the traumas and so much more that all started of with a lack of forgiveness. Holding onto all these emotions have adverse effects on my physiology and psychology. In the end all I discovered was that I had to let it all go. This poison was not changing them, but it destroyed me.
Lack of forgiveness is essentially the withholding of love. I use this tool as I desire to keep others in their place for hurting me and keeping them at arms length. A fools errand indeed. When perhaps it is I who should put my self in their place and understand. That is when I can turn the lack of forgiveness or resentment into a state of acceptance of the mind and an offering of love from the heart.
Internal healing enables external circumstances to change. It starts with forgiveness. The inner shift transforms the outer reality. Poison to potent is the alchemy of the heart.
Love yourself, and forgive others before they have a chance to apologize.
I love you